That’s me, I am a big cry baby. I love a good cry. There are about ten or so movies that I watch, a lot, for a good cry. For the majority of these movies there is just one point, one place in the film that makes me weep like a baby. And the funny thing is I start tearing-up well prior to the scene just because I know it’s coming. For instance, The Color Purple, when Whoopi Goldberg’s kids coming running through the field…….tears. Antwone Fisher, when he meets his great-grandmother…….tears. Field of Dreams, when Kevin Costner ask his Dad if he wants to play catch…….tears.
I have always been an emotional guy, I wear them on my sleeve as the old saying goes. If I am pissed about something it’s shows on my face no hiding it. If I am hurt, embarrassed, or sad, same thing no real disguising it. I do not have a poker face, I have a happy face, mad face, sad face, tranquil face and a confused face. Unfortunately the face itself isn’t much to look at (George Clooney I am not) but you work with the gifts, or lack of gifts you were granted.
I am sorry that society, as a whole, frowns on men for showing their emotions (except for anger it seems, men are expected to get pissed off). I am not sure who started this whole “men are supposed to be tough” crap, it probably goes back to the caveman times, but I think the world would be a better place if men openly cried more often. A lot of the reason I love our current President, Barack Obama, is because he is not afraid to show his emotions, not only anger but sadness, empathy and compassion. My sense is that he is very sincere and these are his true feelings not simply staged for the cameras.
So for all you manly men out there, have a good cry. You will feel better.
I have been known to ugly cry and weep. Dudes need to do that more.
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Yup, my kids tell me I am an ugly crier. I wear it with pride. Thanks for reading!
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I feel you on this. Back when I was teaching high school I would dry heave and weep at even the cheesiest of Teacher movies. It just brought up such heavy emotion that weeping just busted out.
I think it’s not even just the sad stuff but the expressing of all sorts of emotions and agreement on how this is definitely not something that has been encouraged in men in the past.
But I’d say it takes some real courage for men to rock the tears, so in a way we are being strong in expressing ourselves, in part because of the past stereotypes and patterns..
Slow clap for a good post 🙂
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Thank you Zac! And thank you for taking one for the team. Take Care.
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There is an emotional side to a man. Most men are not balanced or strong enough to find it.
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Balance is the key word
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I wrote a post on this a while back. The closer one comes to godliness, the more one exhibits the best of both masculine and feminine traits.
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Cause God is both male and female, masculine and feminine.
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Exactly!
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See I am not as dumb as I look 🙂
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My husband really didn’t show emotions well until our daughters came along…I think it makes him much more attractive to me that he is strong enough to do so!
Oh, and if you ever want a really good cry movie, check out “What Dreams May Come” 🙂
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I would venture to guess daughters cast the same magic on me. Thank you for reading love. Take Care.
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True, I find men who show emotions and also express them, to be more authentic and sincere …much more close to their true Self
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Then you would love me, except for the not George Clooney thing :). Thank you for reading.
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🙂 🙂 you are welcome!
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Oh I have a movie that gets me everytime. My Life with Michael Keaton and Nicole Kidman. I’m a blubbering fool through pretty much the whole film. My ex use to cry to movies and I thought it was perfectly normal and moving. Cry away my friend. 🙂
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Wonderful movie, thank you for reading Ms. Smarty always good to hear from you love. Take Care.
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I have done a few posts regarding tears, emotion and men, I think it takes a strong man to cry, to have found his emotions and not opérate from ego, you also feel so good after,it’s a great stress reliever, holding tears back just build up more emotional pressure, there are also happy tears !! they are great as well…………………………..
Brooke
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I have had my share of happy tears recently. Thank you Ms. Brooke
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Couldn’t agree more 😉
But now I’m curious…what should woman do more by your opinion?
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In my house, mind their own business 🙂
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haha, why doesn’t that surprise me?
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I am over run by females both the 2 legged and 4 legged kind 🙂
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And then this seventh one disturbs your peace online…haha
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Never!
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Nothing wrong with men crying. I brought both my sons up to be in touch with their emotions, my younger son and I saw “Hachi”- I thought it would be a happy animal story with the added bonus of Richard Gere for me…couldn’t leave the cinema till half an hour later as we snotted and blubbered and sobbed…
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🙂
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I used to see the stereotypical Italian men in movies that would weep during operas, and think “Man, I wish I could do that.” Expressing emotions is very hard for me. But the older I get, the easier it becomes.
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Time seems to lessen the grip on emotions for most of us. Sadly though I have also seen time tighten many a mans heart as well. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.
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There is a stigma for women also. If we show anger, we are bitches. So we cry out of frustration because a lady never raises her voice. Great post!
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Very true
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