“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” -Dr. Seuss
Recently two members of my family had their heartbroken over a business transaction that didn’t materialize. They unfortunately, as I told them, had “counted their chickens before they hatched”. The deal was not overtly complicated but like any transaction between two parties, when one gives something they need to feel they are getting something fair in return. In this particular matter, one of the parties felt they were giving more while the other party didn’t feel like they were getting enough. All said, my two family members were devastated. In their minds all their hopes and dreams were crushed (their young).
I spent one afternoon talking them both off the cliff reminding them of what they had gained rather than what they had lost. Yes, believe it or not, there are gains with heartbreak. In this case, they wrote a business plan, devised a product strategy, a marketing strategy, met professionals and vendors that could help them, all exercises they would not have accomplished if they had not had their heartbroken. They learned what was important to them, what they could live with and what they could give up, deal breakers and deal makers, again all developed because they had their heartbroken. I reminded them that they were now in a better position when the next opportunity came along because, you guessed it, they had their heartbroken.
Whether in business or in love, heartbreak is never pleasant nor is it rarely easy. But if you look with the right attitude and frame of mind you are sure to find the lessons you need to move forward. Life is about experiences, honestly, life is nothing but experiences, both good and bad. It is how we react to those experiences that will determine our overall happiness. It’s okay to be picky, it’s your life and your future. You don’t have to settle for “good enough”, yes maybe perfect doesn’t exist but there is a happy place, a comfortable and safe place somewhere between “good enough” and perfect.
Accept the pain of heartbreak, absorb the lessons it is sharing with you but don’t allow it to occupy all the space in your life or your heart. As Eckhart Tolle stated; “Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”
“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”- Seneca