A white southern male-my story


I am a 50 + year old white southern male. Now with that very simple description here are some things you might infer about me;

  1. I like to fish and hunt.- I don’t, I hate the way deer meat taste and I love Bambi.
  2. I own a pick-up truck. – I do, with a Coexist and Free Tibet sticker on it.
  3. I honor the confederate flag. – I don’t, the honor was drained 60 years ago.
  4. I like to drink beer. – I do, craft beers I might add.
  5. I wear cowboy boots. – I don’t, birkenstocks or flip-flops.
  6. I follow NASCAR. – I do, when Tony Stewart retires I won’t.
  7. I am still fighting the civil war. – I don’t, we lost, it wasn’t even close.
  8. I love college football. – I do, but my wife loves it more.
  9. I am a Southern Baptist. – Have you read my blog?
  10. I talk with a slow drawl. – I do, you will want to finish my sentences.

I bristle at times at how the typical white southern male is stereotyped in the media or in the movies. I have neither a mullet cut, a dirty confederate flag baseball cap, cut-off blue jeans, wife beater tank-top, or a jaw full of chewing tobacco. Oh, and I have all of my teeth.

If I didn’t open my mouth you would have no idea I was southern. But the minute I did, when you heard the first y’all or ma’am slip through my lips you would know and then the wheels would begin turning.

I say on my Who I am page that I am “American by birth, Southern by the grace of God”. I embrace my Southern heritage. My ancestors were not slave owners, they were hard-working, resilient people from England, Ireland and Scotland that scratched a living in the hard earth to provide and survive. Were they racist? Hard to know, but given the time and place, probably. Does that heritage make me a racist? In your mind it may, but my parents created a different mindset, a different heritage within our family.

I have carried that same mindset a generation further and added an additional “category”, the LGBT community. My wife and I have stressed the need for acceptance and tolerance with our children, that the term “love your neighbor” cast a much wider net than many in our society accept, practice or believe. This position has isolated us in our Red state. It has even isolated us in our own neighborhood making for, at times, very uncomfortable dinner party conversation.

Yes I am a white southern male, proud of my heritage and trying to create a new one of acceptance, compassion and love. I hope other sons of the south will have the courage to join me and yes you can still kill Bambi’s mom and dad if you need too.

About ends and beginnings blog

I am a frustrated writer and poet waiting to be discovered. A stand-up philosopher performing on a street corner near you. A Christian with questions but I don’t want to hear your answers. A Buddhist with a bumper sticker on my truck to prove it. A collector of quotes. A grower of lettuce. The Patron Saint of earthworms who name their children after me. A cyclist whose big ass strains the seams of his Lycra bibs. I am American by birth, Southern by the grace of God. My goal in life is to leave an imprint on the lives of the people I love not a footprint on the earth. I am a son, a husband, a father composed of 65%-Oxygen, 18%-Carbon, 10%-Hydrogen, 3%-Nitrogen, 3%-Diet Coke and 1%-Oreo.
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26 Responses to A white southern male-my story

  1. K says:

    Thank you for doing your part to reclaim southern people and move things into a higher consciousness.

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  2. Cara says:

    I get it. I’m an Italian-American woman from Brooklyn, NY. You might infer, based solely on that knowledge, that

    1. I tawk like Marisa Tomei in “My Cousin Vinnie”-I don’t, I was an English major in college and I speak very well, thank you.

    2. I’m a Catholic & always wear a cross-yeah, no, I don’t ascribe to any organized religion.

    3. Every guy I date is named Vinnie, Paulie, Joey-again, nope. Fabian was a lot of fun.

    4. I live in the tanning salon-I’ve never been.

    5. My hair is enormous-no, never that. Sleek and shiny.

    When I think of southerners, I think of great literary minds…Tennessee Williams.

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  3. Patricia says:

    I too and tired of the stereotypes: it gets on my nerves to see the way country western dancing, women’s hairdos, exaggerated accents, lack of education, plus all the examples you listed are used in movies. That being said there are a lot of cultural traditions and beliefs passed down that are pretty “redneck” borne out of ignorance. I am proud to be a southern girl from Texas. The funny thing is that I talk about the friendliness and helpfulness of people in Colorado but most people I meet have some sort of roots in Texas. Not to take away from the locals, they are really good people.

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  4. Gina Marie says:

    Thank your for your post! As a transplant to the South from the West Coast, I must say people are much nicer. It was a weird transition for me. But, as you say in your post, it is a bit more awkward when some people realize my WIFE and I moved here. Some think it’s pretty cool, while others obviously worry that, by even talking to us, we might cause them to spend at least a week in hell when they die. So far, no pitchforks in the front yard to demand we leave town. 🙂 But, it’s important to remember not to lump all Southerners into any group.

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    • In my community we are just at the early stages of seeing racially mixed couples, common place in large southern cities like Atlanta and Charlotte but relatively new in my medium size city. We have several gay couples (men and women) that not only attend but are members of my traditional protestant Church, again a new front in this city. It’s a new world Ms. Gina. My children don’t even take a second glance at mixed or gay couples. Change never happens as quick as we would like for it too, but change waits for no one, you can fight it, you can ignore it, and sadly you can shoot at it, but you can’t stop it. If hell is in someone’s forecast simply because of their sexuality then it is just one item in a very long list of other reasons that will get many of us sent there. If this is true, my guess, it will be very crowded.

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  5. Just an awesome post! Thanks for sharing. 🙂 G-uno

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  6. What a great post, thank you so much for sharing!

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  7. Ashlee says:


    My name is Ashlee. I’m co-founder of the Youshare Project, with the mission to connect people around the world through true, personal stories. I recently stumbled across your blog and read the above post entitled “A white southern male – my story.” It’s so honest and beautifully written.I think it would make a wonderful Youshare, because part of our mission is to shatter stigmas and stereotypes. And this of course is one big stereotype that I think a lot of people would like to see disappear.

    If this sounds interesting to you, I would love to email you directly with more information and formally invite you to adapt your story to Youshare and share it with the project. You have my email address and website. I hope to hear from you soon.



    • Ashlee thank you for your wonderful comments. I am glad you enjoyed my post. I write anonymously which gives me the freedom to work on my craft without the glare or spotlight of personal criticism (I am my toughest critic). I hope, in the near future, I will be ready for a bigger stage at which point I will need to include and clue my family into this process. I may never get there but I have enjoyed growing the current audience I have in these six short months. I hope you will read more of my work in the future. I am always open to topic ideas as well as discussion, agree or disagree, of my opinions. Thank you again for your interest.

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      • Ashlee says:

        Thank you for responding to my comment. I certainly understand your position and wish you all the best with your writing. I’ll definitely check back in to read your blog, and if/when you decide you’re ready to share on another website, we’d welcome your story(ies) with open arms. All my best, Ashlee

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        • Thank you so much Ashlee. Blogging is a weird and quirky little world. I have had a lot of support which has helped my fragile ego. I am dyslexic and my grammar sucks so I have a number of writing battles I deal with. Thank God for spell check :). Take care.


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  10. Voice Truth says:

    Hey, how’s it going?

    I want to pass along some very important news that everyone needs to hear!

    In December of 2017, Donald Trump made history by recognizing Jerusalem as the capital of Israel. Why is this big news? Because by this the Jewish people of Israel are now able to press forward in bringing about the Third Temple prophesied in the Bible.

    Jewish Rabbis have publicly announced that their Messiah will be revealed in the coming years who will be a leader and spiritual guide to all nations, gathering all religions under the worship of one God.

    Biblical prophecy tells us that this Jewish Messiah who will take the stage will be the antichrist “who opposes and exalts himself above all that is called God or that is worshiped, so that he sits as God in the temple of God, showing himself that he is God” (2 Thessalonians 2:4). For a time he will bring about a false peace, but “Therefore when you see the ‘abomination of desolation,’ spoken of by Daniel the prophet, standing in the holy place (Matthew 24:15)…then there will be great tribulation, such as has not been since the beginning of the world until this time, no, nor ever shall be” (Matthew 24:21).

    More importantly, the power that runs the world wants to put a RFID microchip in our body making us total slaves to them. This chip matches perfectly with the Mark of the Beast in the Bible, more specifically in Revelation 13:16-18:

    “He causes all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hand or on their foreheads, and that no one may buy or sell except one who has the mark or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.

    Here is wisdom. Let him who has understanding calculate the number of the beast, for it is the number of a man: His number is 666.”

    Referring to the last days, this could only be speaking of a cashless society, which we have yet to see, but are heading towards. Otherwise, we could still buy or sell without the mark amongst others if physical money was still currency. This Mark couldn’t be spiritual because the word references two different physical locations. If it was spiritual it would just say in the forehead. RFID microchip implant technology will be the future of a one world cashless society containing digital currency. It will be implanted in the right-hand or the forehead, and we cannot buy or sell without it. Revelation 13:11-18 tells us that a false prophet will arise on the world scene doing miracles before men, deceiving them to receive this Mark. Do not be deceived! We must grow strong in Jesus. AT ALL COSTS, DO NOT TAKE IT!

    “Then a third angel followed them, saying with a loud voice, “If anyone worships the beast and his image, and receives his mark on his forehead or on his hand, he himself shall also drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is poured out full strength into the cup of His indignation. He shall be tormented with fire and brimstone in the presence of the holy angels and in the presence of the Lamb. And the smoke of their torment ascends forever and ever; and they have no rest day or night, who worship the beast and his image, and whoever receives the mark of his name” (Revelation 14:9-11).

    People have been saying the end is coming for many years, but we needed two key things. One, the Third Temple, and two, the technology for a cashless society to fulfill the prophecy of the Mark of the Beast.

    Visit http://WWW.BIBLEFREEDOM.COM to see proof for these things and why the Bible truly is the word of God!

    If you haven’t already, it is time to seek God with all your heart. Jesus loves you more than you could imagine. He wants to have a relationship with you and redeem you from your sins. Turn to Him and repent while there is still hope! This is forever…God bless!


    We all know God exists. Why? Because without Him, we couldn’t prove anything at all. Do we live our lives as if we cannot know anything? No. So why is God necessary? In order to know anything for certain, you would have to know everything, or have revelation from somebody who does. Who is capable of knowing everything? God. So to know anything, you would have to be God, or know God.

    A worldview without God cannot account for the uniformity and intelligibility of nature. And why is it that we can even reason that God is the best explanation for this if there is no God? We are given reason to know or reject God, but never to know that He does not exist.

    It has been calculated by Roger Penrose that the odds of the initial conditions for the big bang to produce the universe that we see to be a number so big, that we could put a zero on every particle in the universe, and even that would not be enough to use every zero. What are the odds that God created the universe? Odds are no such thing. Who of you would gamble your life on one coin flip?

    Is there evidence that the Bible is the truth? Yes. Did you know that the creation accounts listed in the book of Genesis are not only all correct, but are also in the correct chronological order? That the Bible doesn’t say the Earth was formed in six 24-hour days but rather six long but finite periods of time? That the Bible makes 10 times more creation claims than all major “holy” books combined with no contradictions, while these other books have errors in them? The Bible stood alone by concurring with the big bang saying, “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth” (Genesis 1:1); and says our universe is expanding, thousands of years before scientists discovered these things. Watch a potential life-changing video on the front page of http://WWW.BIBLEFREEDOM.COM with Astronomer(PhD) Hugh Ross explaining all these facts based on published scientific data. He has authored many books, backed even by atheist scientists.

    Jesus came to pay a debt that we could not; to be our legal justifier to reconcile us back to a Holy God; only if we are willing to receive Him: “For the wages of sin is death…” (Romans 6:23).

    God so loved the world that He gave us His only begotten son, so that whoever believes in Him, through faith, shall not perish, but have everlasting life. Jesus says if we wish to enter into life to keep the commands! The two greatest commands are to love God with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind; and your neighbor as yourself. All the law hang on these commands. We must be born of and lead by the Holy Spirit, to be called children of God, to inherit the kingdom. If we are willing to humble ourselves in prayer to Jesus, to confess and forsake our sins, He is willing to give the Holy Spirit to those who keep asking of Him; giving us a new heart, leading us into all truth!

    Jesus came to free us from the bondage of sin. The everlasting fire was prepared for the devil and his angels due to disobedience to God’s law. If we do the same, what makes us any different than the devil? Jesus says unless we repent, we shall perish. For sin is the transgression of the law. We must walk in the Spirit so we may not fulfill the lusts of the flesh, being hatred, fornication, drunkenness and the like. Whoever practices such things will not inherit the kingdom (Galatians 5:16-26). If we sin, we may come before Jesus to ask for forgiveness (1 John 2:1-2). Evil thoughts are not sins, but rather temptations. It is not until these thoughts conceive and give birth by our own desires that they become sin (James 1:12-15). When we sin, we become in the likeness of the devil’s image, for he who sins is of the devil (1 John 3:8); but if we obey Jesus, in the image of God. For without holiness, we shall not see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14).

    The oldest religion in the world is holiness through faith (James 1:27). What religion did Adam and Eve follow before the fall? Jesus, Who became the last Adam, what religion does He follow? Is He not holy? He never told us to follow the rituals and traditions of man but to take up our cross and follow Him (Luke 9:23). There are many false doctrines being taught leading people astray. This is why we need the Holy Spirit for discernment. Unlike religion, holiness cannot be created. It is given to us from above by the baptism of the Spirit. Jesus is more than a religion; He is about having a personal relationship with the Father. Start by reading the Gospel of Matthew, to hear the words of God, to know His character and commandments. Follow and obey Jesus, for He is the way, the truth, and the life!


    • President Trump fucked a Porn Star and paid her $150,000, fucked a Playboy Bunny and paid her $150,000. President Trump has been married three times, has five children from three different women, and fucked wife # 2 and wife #3 while married to the wife #1 and wife #2. He was recorded saying that he likes to grab women by the pussy. Do you really think that Jesus gives a flying fuck about the “Third Temple” with this piece of immoral shit sitting at the head table of your evangelical faith? Crawl back under your 10 commandment tablets and quit sending me comments. Peace and enjoy hell.

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