My wife and I just celebrated our 31st anniversary. 31 years with the same women or as she would say “31 years with this butthead”. Let that sink in for a moment. I have been alive for 55 years. So do a little math, for 24 of my 55 years I was single, or put another way I have been married for 56% of my life. Where has the time gone.
In no particular order here is what I have learned about marriage in 31 years;
- It’s hard, it gets easier, it gets hard again and then gets easier again.
- It’s all about give and take but not keeping score, don’t ever keep score.
- It’s about sharing the load, there is no such thing as their work or your work particularly when it comes to raising kids or chickens for that matter.
- Forgive each other, often, without being asked. Again without keeping score.
- Remember why you married each other. There was a reason. What was it?
- Marriage isn’t about gum drops and rainbows everyday. If you are expecting happiness and bliss 24/7 get a dog.
- Have faith in each other, trust may seem harder to reconcile at times, faith isn’t.
- He or she does things that annoy you, guess what. Again, don’t keep score.
- Time and attention are the greatest gifts you can offer. Don’t be greedy with either one.
- Marriage is a partnership, two equal halves making a whole. Equal, equal, equal……
I am sure I have forgotten something, just ask her. Got one or two you want to add fire away.