The Same Women

My wife and I just celebrated our 31st anniversary. 31 years with the same women or as she would say “31 years with this butthead”. Let that sink in for a moment. I have been alive for 55 years. So do a little math, for 24 of my 55 years I was single, or put another way I have been married for 56% of my life. Where has the time gone.

In no particular order here is what I have learned about marriage in 31 years;

1. It’s hard, it gets easier, it gets hard again and then gets easier again.
2. It’s all about give and take but not keeping score, don’t ever keep score.
3. It’s about sharing the load, there is no such thing as their work or your work particularly when it comes to raising kids or chickens for that matter.
4. Forgive each other, often, without being asked. Again without keeping score.
5. Remember why you married each other. There was a reason. What was it?
6. Marriage isn’t about gum drops and rainbows everyday. If you are expecting happiness and bliss 24/7 get a dog.
7. Have faith in each other, trust may seem harder to reconcile at times, faith isn’t.
8. He or she does things that annoy you, guess what. Again, don’t keep score.
9. Time and attention are the greatest gifts you can offer. Don’t be greedy with either one.
10. Marriage is a partnership, two equal halves making a whole. Equal, equal, equal……

I am sure I have forgotten something, just ask her. Got one or two you want to add fire away.

“We were married for better or worse. I couldn’t have done better, and she couldn’t have done worse.” – Henny Youngman